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The Difference Between a Coach and a Good Friend (And Why It Matters)

This post explores the difference between friendly support and transformative coaching—and why every leader needs someone who dares to challenge them, not just cheer them on.

Ryan Soares

4/3/20251 min read

The Difference Between a Coach and a Good Friend (And Why It Matters)

A good friend is gold. They’ve got your back, cheer you on, and take your side when things get tough. But if you're a leader trying to grow—really grow—you need more than support. You need challenge. That’s where a coach comes in.

Here’s the difference: a friend helps you feel better. A coach helps you get better.

Friends are emotionally invested. They want you to win, but sometimes that means they’ll steer around the hard truths. Coaches? We hold up the mirror—even when the reflection isn’t flattering.

At Soares Consulting, our executive coaching isn’t about scripts or standardized models. It’s about showing up fully—listening deeply, asking the questions no one else is asking, and refusing to let leaders settle for surface-level success.

Take a senior leader we worked with recently. Smart, driven, and well-respected. But he kept running into the same issue: his team didn’t fully trust his decisions. His friends chalked it up to a “bad culture fit.” We looked closer. Through honest reflection and coaching, he recognized a recurring pattern—he avoided vulnerability, often defaulting to needing to be the smartest in the room. When he started leading with authenticity instead of certainty, something shifted. Trust grew. Conversations got deeper. Results followed.

That’s the crossover point. Coaching isn’t therapy. And it isn’t friendship. It’s a high-trust, high-stakes relationship built to spark insight, challenge assumptions, and create real transformation.

So if you’re surrounded by smart, supportive people—but still feeling stuck—it might be time to add someone who’s not there to make you comfortable, but to make you better.

You don’t need more advice. You need someone who sees what you can’t—and has the courage to help you see it and say it out loud.

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